I had a heart wrenching conversation last week. I try to be a shoulder for those who need to talk. I’ve always been at a loss for words and learned years ago most people are wanting to talk things out- not have me offer wisdom, which is great because I am always at a loss of what I should say.
I felt the hurt that he felt in what he told me. I felt the loss that he felt in his words. There is no way to heal that hurt or fill that loss. I know this person always believes the best in every one. Sometimes he believes blindly which usually is a blessing to those he believes in.
This time it was not a blessing to a little girl. This time he left one person drowning while he was trying to save another. I am glad that my words failed me again. I have spent many nights without rest trying to understand his choice. I am grateful that he made what I consider the right choice at the end of his eight years, but I am sick to my stomach that it took him eight years to throw a life line to a little girl.
I don’t understand how anyone makes the choice to stand by an adult and leave a little girl drowning with no one to lift her out of her hurt, her loss. Eight years is too long to leave a child without hope.
I know he has spent many sleepless nights and countless hours in prayer looking for wisdom and guidance on all of his decisions. He is human and will make mistakes. His judgment is not always accurate. I am working hard at finding the path to forgiveness of his mistake.
But I was that little girl that no one helped. I was the little girl victimized by grown men from the time I was 6 years old. I was never thrown a life line. I grew up as a victim and lived as a victim for many years. I battle Mental Health issues daily from what was done to me. I pray no one ever goes through what I went through- yet here is another little girl left alone with trusted adults who knew and didn’t help!
Left to drown for 8 years before someone finally did something. Too little too late. I pray for her daily. I pray that God holds her close everyday and never allows anyone to harm her ever again.
World please wake up! There are evil people doing evil things. When you know someone is being harmed you MUST stand up for the victim! Quit standing up for the bully! Why do you think by helping the bully you help the victim? You DON’T. When you help the bully you tell the bully he/she is okay and keep doing what it is that is destroying their victim! If you help the victim, you tell the victim they are worthy, you tell the bully NO! I don’t understand why this is so hard for you to understand.
I am going to end this blog with a prayer for all of us.
Dear Heavenly Father,
We need you. We plead that you help each of us recognize and call out bullies. Teach us to help victims and strengthen our faith to serve you well. Teach us to stop helping the bullies and to start helping the victims, daily.
I love you, God. Please help me be the change I want to see in our world. Thank you for blessing me with live, love and laughter.
In the name of your precious Son, Jesus Christ