A little respect, please!

Today I buried one of my friends.  It was a pleasant service with good, kind friends.  Our dear Miss Edie has finally gone to rest with our Lord and Savior.  After the funeral we got in line to follow the hearse to the cemetery and I am still appalled by the lack of respect for a funeral procession.

It should not shock me.  We ask people to slow down and move over for emergency vehicles but many people do not. We are told to pull to the right and STOP to allow emergency vehicles to pass you unobstructed, but people don’t.

Kudo’s to Rifle Police Department.  They took care of us at the intersections and forced others to give right of way.  Once we got onto the bypass several of those cars that were stopped by the officers, chose to pass the procession in their hurry to get somewhere else.  I was raised to respect the last ride for ANY hearse.  I was taught to pull over and give them right of way PERIOD.  That hearse is taking someone’s loved one for the last ride on this earth.

While traveling to Silt to bury Miss Edie, along Highway 6 SEVERAL cars cut into our procession line.  There was one Silt Police Officer who held traffic so our procession could turn onto 7th street and arrive at Skyline Cemetery.  At that turn ONE of the cars that had cut into our procession line recognized their error and pulled off to let us pass.

The procession car behind me had a mother and 2 sons.  Upon arriving at the cemetery I visited with their mother whom stated: I can’t believe that car cut you off like that.  I replied, I was shocked too.  She said the boys asked why someone would jump into our funeral procession?  She replied that apparently they didn’t realize it- it wasn’t the right choice for them to do.  So one of the boys answers well I guess now they just have to come to our funeral.

Arriving at the entrance to the cemetery the car in front of me was turning slowly and as I was attempting to follow her, a little red car came racing down 7th Street and had to swerve to not hit the back of my friends car.  He had his cell phone to his head and giving her dirty looks as he squeezes between our cars to race off to whatever was more important than respecting someone who has just passed away.  I understand at this point we were not as recognizable as a procession, but 15 cars turning into a cemetery should give you a clue!

Things have changed so much in this world I decided to google information on what to do when you encounter a funeral procession.  This page gives good clear and precise information if you doubt what upset me today.   https://www.funeralwise.com/learn/procession/

Knowing that a 7 year old and 6 year old recognized that things were done incorrectly it gives me hope that not all is lost!  Oh I long to see people be kind to each other and respect each other in every way.

Miss Edie I pray heaven is everything we ever dreamed of.  I love you.  I miss you dear friend.  I thank you for loving me so well.

 

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Texting Etiquette??

I have to admit that I am old.  Communication and the way we do it has changed many times in my lifetime.  While I am a Grandma, and even a Great Grandma I do text.  I text on a daily basis.

I remember when my oldest granddaughter began texting.  I was always after her for poor spelling and grammar.  Hence she rarely texts me anymore.  I am saddened by this but I do feel strongly that etiquette should be taught to each of us.

Recently I sent a text to a relative that I had not ever texted.  Instead of assuming she would know who was on the other end of that strange phone number I started my text like this:  Hi (Name), This is Rebecca, (Regina’s Mom) yadda, yadda, yadda.  I would have done the same thing if I had called this person- or written them an email or snail mail- so why shouldn’t it be done in a text?

Recently I received a text from a person requesting work through our delivery business.  It was vague and the person assumed I would know exactly who they were.  Well I have two clients with the same name and as Murphy’s Law demands I went to the wrong client.

I do understand how and why people text the way they do- I am simply writing in hopes of pulling some of them out of their self absorbed world and change the way they send a text.  First- if you are not texting EVERYDAY with someone do not assume that they know exactly who you are or what you want.  Take the time to say- This is (NAME).  Second- reread your text before you hit send!  Some of the auto correct features make text messages undecipherable.  Which means that now you will be exchanging several texts to clear up confusion.  Third- if you are using text messages to do business- please be respectful of the times you are sending them!  Honestly a text at 3 AM is just downright rude!

I know each of us are busy!  I know text messages are a quick way to get something done!  But they are quicker and more efficient if you identify yourself, proof read your text and last but not least make sure it isn’t in the middle of the night!