NFL kneels through the Anthem

When this disrespectful action began a few years ago I was offended and shared posts stating how wrong others felt this was.  I was wearing my blinders and felt like the money these men make to ‘play’ a game shouldn’t allow them to show disrespect to the soldiers who are serving or the veterans that have served.

My husband and I went for a bike ride today so we missed all the commentary on today’s NFL kneeling.  When we arrived home I found some posts about our home team, The Denver Bronco’s, kneeling and I began to get upset about it.  I then reminded myself I did research the reasons that some of these players were doing this last year and found some common ground I have with them.

I was arrested and convicted of a felony 2 + decades ago.  It was a life changing event in my life, my marriage and our family.  For years I refused to recite the Pledge of Allegiance.  I no longer believed in it. I’ve walked through an experience that proved to me that we no longer have ‘Justice for All’  If you have a big enough bank account you can get justice.  Our entire justice system is fueled by the drive for money.  From fines and fees to hiring lawyers.  We are told our tax dollars build and fund jails.  When you are incarcerated you are told you have to pay fines and fees for your incarceration.  They are double dipping from the taxpayers and the inmates- but you can’t get anyone to listen to you.  The taxpayers say the inmates should pay.  They can’t hear that both are paying.

My brother served in Viet Nam.  My father served in the Korean Conflict.  I have many friends whose kids are serving today.  I have nephews and cousins serving.  I never blamed any of these people when I no longer believed in Justice for All.  I don’t think our NFL players are blaming the soldiers either.  While in some ways I think it wrong for ‘entertainers’ to shove their personal opinions into our homes, I also feel it will take a GIANT to quash this justice system that has gone awry.

I agree with my fellow citizens that President Trump was wrong to call names.  While he may want a different approach from NFL players, calling names is not going to fix the problem as we saw today.

While I don’t think our justice system is fair- I also am not shooting myself in the foot to call attention to it.  I had to make my own peace with this flawed system.  I compared our system to several others around the world.  I would not want to walk through any other justice system on this planet.  So I decided to make what changes I could.  I could change my attitude.  I could change my actions.  I can vote.  I can research the candidates, judges, ballot measures and I can vote with purpose.  This is the way I chose to make changes in a system I do not like or trust.  I also believe my way is slower than a snail in making a difference, so possibly these overpaid game players will bring a change needed, this is overdue.


Really? Please just read the road signs!

Today was Day 1 of 95 days without the main bridge that delivers commuters across the Colorado River and the Rio Grande Railroad tracks to and from Aspen and all towns in between!

There has been at least one YEAR of heavy advertising preparing us for today.  I’ve seen it in the local newspapers, heard in on the Radio Stations and it has been on all of my social media feeds.  I recognize that since my occupation is DRIVING, I tend to stay informed about road closures and such.  It would seem to me that as a commuter you would stay informed too- but apparently not!

I witnessed people driving OVER the white plastic mounted lane dividers making the right lane of Interstate 70 an exit only lane.  People just decided they didn’t care and drove over them.  I saw driver after driver STOP and ask the flaggers for directions of how to get where they wanted to go.  Excuse me- why do the rest of us have to wait for you?  The flaggers are there to keep everyone moving in an orderly fashion- NOT for your personal map service.

I may sound a bit agitated and I apologize.  I knew it would make my day longer and harder.  I just didn’t expect to see the level of selfishness from drivers who somehow missed the MANY MEMOS that were put out about this detour.  It will improve- we are like sheep and once we learn our ‘NEW’ route it will go quicker.

I appreciate that RFTA is offering FREE bus services from Parachute to Glenwood during this time.  I urge anyone who can to please utilize this amazing service.  I know using a bus takes a little more time, but it does remove more cars from the road and it gives you the opportunity to relax to and from work.  I know, I know- what gives me the right to ask you to take the bus and not do it myself?  I am a courier.  What that means is that I am carpooling- with packages instead of passengers.  Most days I am carrying packages from 15 or more different clients.  I pick up and drop off all the way to Aspen and all the way back down from Aspen.

By sending your packages with me or calling and having me run your errands you are reducing the amount of cars trying to make it through this detour!  We take most packages for only $13.00.  My morning commute took 1 hr 45 minutes to get from Canyon Creek to McDonald’s.  I believe everyone’s time is worth more than $13 for nearly 2 hours ?!?!  By having multiple packages going to and from is how we keep our prices low.  Consider saving yourself some time and money!

And in the meantime- STOP TRYING TO TALK TO THE FLAGGERS!  Here is the official explanation of what a flagger is doing:

Flaggers are the people on construction sites who control traffic. They are the men and women along roads and highways who help traffic keep flowing through a construction zone, despite a shutdown of lanes. Flaggers often work in teams, with each person controlling the flow of traffic in a certain direction.   (NOTICE IT DOES NOT SAY GIVE DIRECTIONS TO EACH DRIVER THAT REFUSED TO LOOK INTO THE ROAD CLOSURE).

Texting Etiquette??

I have to admit that I am old.  Communication and the way we do it has changed many times in my lifetime.  While I am a Grandma, and even a Great Grandma I do text.  I text on a daily basis.

I remember when my oldest granddaughter began texting.  I was always after her for poor spelling and grammar.  Hence she rarely texts me anymore.  I am saddened by this but I do feel strongly that etiquette should be taught to each of us.

Recently I sent a text to a relative that I had not ever texted.  Instead of assuming she would know who was on the other end of that strange phone number I started my text like this:  Hi (Name), This is Rebecca, (Regina’s Mom) yadda, yadda, yadda.  I would have done the same thing if I had called this person- or written them an email or snail mail- so why shouldn’t it be done in a text?

Recently I received a text from a person requesting work through our delivery business.  It was vague and the person assumed I would know exactly who they were.  Well I have two clients with the same name and as Murphy’s Law demands I went to the wrong client.

I do understand how and why people text the way they do- I am simply writing in hopes of pulling some of them out of their self absorbed world and change the way they send a text.  First- if you are not texting EVERYDAY with someone do not assume that they know exactly who you are or what you want.  Take the time to say- This is (NAME).  Second- reread your text before you hit send!  Some of the auto correct features make text messages undecipherable.  Which means that now you will be exchanging several texts to clear up confusion.  Third- if you are using text messages to do business- please be respectful of the times you are sending them!  Honestly a text at 3 AM is just downright rude!

I know each of us are busy!  I know text messages are a quick way to get something done!  But they are quicker and more efficient if you identify yourself, proof read your text and last but not least make sure it isn’t in the middle of the night!


Process Server

These days I wear many hats throughout my day.  I am a wife, mother, grandmother, foster grandmother, business partner, courier and last but not least I am a process server.


Most people I know tell me they would never serve a summons on someone.  This is probably the biggest reason I am writing a blog about process serving.  I have lots of tales to share about process serving.  Some stories are funny, some are scary but honestly to me there is not much difference to me whether I am delivering flowers to someone or a summons.


See years ago there was someone trying to serve papers on my husband.  He sat watching our house for hours and finally after a few weeks of causing me sleepless nights and concerns of why we were being watched, until one morning the server arrived while my husband was home and he served the summons on him.  It turns out that he was trying to serve someone other than my husband.  It happens more than I knew about until then.  The person they were trying to serve used to live at the address we were at.


I lost a lot of sleep and am grateful that the laws have changed.  We are now able to serve any legal adult of relation at the address, instead of having to watch someone’s home and scare the family.


Recently one of the serves I just completed the person actually did not owe the money.  If that person had not found out about this it could have potentially moved into a levy against their bank account.  I would want to know if I was being sued. I am simply trying to give you information that you need. As a process server I am not the one suing you or caused you to be served. I am just a Grandmother earning her living doing a job that very few people are willing to do.


As a child of God I am saddened by the amount of court proceedings today.  I pray that we all heed to the Bible verse:

<h1 class=”western”><span style=”font-size: medium;”>Matthew 5:37 King James Version (KJV)</span></h1>

<a name=”en-KJV-23272″></a>37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.


But each day I see people not communicate clearly with one another causing disputes to get out of hand and lead to court proceedings.


While I pray for peaceful resolutions in all of these I also recognize that we have to take responsibility for our own actions and choices.   While some of the summons I serve are due to identity theft or an ex spouse who has spent money in your name- sometimes you have made some not healthy choices and these are your consequences.  It is better to deal with the consequences than to run and hide from what has happened.


I’ve helped several people deal with their debt.  I offer to help you with yours if would like.  I am not  a professional but I am very capable.  There are also some excellent professionals that can help. Feel free to contact me if you would like help to deal with your debt.




Mom’s make mistakes- It is OKAY!!

I’ve pondered many things posted in my last blog and keep coming back to why didn’t I help my oldest daughter when she was floundering?  Why didn’t I help my youngest daughter overcome the discomfort of being in our home?  There were many reasons that lead up to my failure to help my children.  I am sharing my personal insights in hopes that it will help someone struggling and make their life a little more simple.

When God blessed me with these beautiful baby girls I was certain God picked the wrong person.  They were so perfect.  I was so inadequate.  How could I ever be good enough to be their Mother.  I believed that I was evil and undeserving of anything good.  While I wasn’t diagnosed with mental illness until many years later I believe my mental illness began when I was forced to have an abortion when I was only 16 years old.

It is interesting as I write this blog- I have believed as long as I can remember that each and every child born is a gift from God.  I believe that God blesses the unions of people with a child.  But in my own life I thought God made a mistake.  He didn’t bless me- he cursed these babies by placing them with me.  That is one of the things I learned thru my mental health counseling.  I do not know if others who suffer from mental illness turn things around like that, but I do.  When my mind begins to degrade me, I’ve finally learned to grab that thought and rebuke it.

2 Corinthians 10:5 (KJV)

 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

From 1985 through 1999 I felt as thought I was a fake.  I didn’t know how to be a Mom.  Most of everything I did was best guessing at what I thought a good parent would do.  I did not have an example in my life to mimic and improve on.  I did the opposite of what I had done to me as I grew up and without having my identity in Christ I didn’t know if I was doing anything right.  So I felt I was a fraud.

We were arrested on Nov 19, 1999.  I have blogged and written lots about this so I urge you to look through my blog for the details on the arrest if you are interested in that.  What I figured out while pondering my last blog was that with FELON written in neon lights over my head I no longer could pretend anymore.  Now everyone knew how bad and evil I was.

So I gave up my job of being the mother of two beautiful perfect daughters.  They deserved better than me.  They are better than I am.  I have no right to tell them what to do.  I was arrested in front of them.  I had to plan on them living with someone other than me.  I was by own judge, jury and executioner.

It is the biggest mistake I made.  I let them down.  No one ever told me, Mothers make mistakes.  Bad things happen in life.  God doesn’t give up on us.  He chose us.  We are valuable to God- every single one of us is valuable.

Luke 12:7 KVJ  But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows.

It was through this devastating event that I began to find my identity in Christ.  I wish I had found my identity before I became a mother.  I would have done a much better job.  More importantly I would have not given up.  To my daughters, I apologize for quitting when you needed me the most.  I am so proud of each of you.  You’ve grown up to be amazing young mothers, ladies, sisters, friends, daughters, Christians, business owners and more.  I pray for your strength and wisdom every day.

Satan is working hard every minute of every day to destroy people, families and life as we know it.  He knows our weaknesses and he uses every trick possible to break each and every one of us.  He succeeded in my life for a little while.

I am grateful for the angels in our lives.  There were so many seen and unseen that helped in numerous ways.  Some brought food.  Some brought encouragement.  Others brought bibles and insisted on studies.  Others brought our family into a church and held our hands through countless emergencies.  There were many people who dropped us like hot potatoes but God brought better people into our lives and helped us.  God I apologize to you and ask for your forgiveness that I didn’t recognize it sooner.  Thank you God for loving this weird little family so much you didn’t give up even when I did.

So to you Mothers and Fathers out there, brothers, sisters, friends, okay- to EVERYONE!!  Life gets rough sometimes- but don’t give up.  Keep reaching for the stars until you find God and then keep reaching so that you will have your own relationship with the Creator of this amazing world!  Even when you get knocked down- don’t give up.  If you can’t fight back, let someone fight for you.  Angels, keep up the good work.

Matthew 25:23  New International Version
“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’