Huck Miller was born 3 years ago on 10/11/12 with full trisomy 18. He was with us for a short 5 months. A scholarship fund was established to honor Huck. This is awarded annually by the Rifle, Colorado Police Department for continuing education to special needs students who, like Huck, have shown courage in the face of adversity. Donations can be made to the “Huck Miller Scholarship Fund” in care of Alpine Banks located in Rifle, New Castle, Glenwood Springs, Carbondale and Grand Junction, Colorado or by dropping off your financial gift at the Rifle Police Department.

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Suicide

On July 20th the world lost another sweet soul to suicide. He was an amazing brother, friend, son and young man. The emotional pain he must have felt many people will never understand. Losing this bright young person has brought up so many emotions, not only for me but for his family that loved him dearly. Twenty five years ago the world lost my brother to suicide. It is an occurrence that never goes away, although the pain isn’t as bad now.
I’ve also felt so much emotional pain that I have considered suicide. Some people said I was bi-polar, others maniac depressive and even others call it mental illness. I’ve been thru a variety of counselors and I am blessed that currently I do not fall victim to the terrible thoughts that lead me on a downward spiral.

I’ve had so many thoughts that I want to share with my loved ones and his loved ones. Suicide leaves everyone feeling guilty. People think they haven’t done enough or were kind enough. I am here to tell you my perspective. My dear loved ones- I was the one who wasn’t enough. I never felt good enough to be your mother, wife, sister or friend.
I’ve felt not good enough at most things in my life. That is why I have worked so much. It is the one thing I knew I did well. I fell miserably short as a wife, mother, sister, daughter and friend to everyone in my life. I beat myself up with my shortcomings over and over. I saw glimpses of other lives that seemed ‘perfect’ and knew how broken I was. Comparison is never helpful. We tend to compare our own personal worst blunders to someone’s best successes and that is unrealistic.
At my lowest times I want each of you to know- I didn’t feel ‘good enough’ to be in your life. It was never that you didn’t show me love. It was never that I wanted to hurt you. It was that I felt a complete and total failure and did not want to drag you down with me. I did know how much you loved me. I also knew how much I didn’t deserve that love. I felt as though I was a ball and chain holding you back from flying. I love you with all my heart, soul, body and mind. But all the love in the world doesn’t fix depression. It doesn’t even scratch the surface of it.
It is not your fault that we have lost loved ones to suicide. You are mourning your brother today, I am mourning my brother and yours. Life has dealt us a hand of cards I wish we could discard. I wish that we could stack the deck and have our brothers back in our lives.
That is me being selfish. I honestly believe that our brothers are in heaven, pain free and peaceful. They are now part of our cloud of witnesses that cheer us on through life. I should not ever want them to live here and suffer this world again.
I believe we are all spiritual beings here on earth for a human adventure. I miss my brother more than words can ever describe. He was the sweetest, kindest person when he was not drinking. Sadly alcohol changed him into an ugly, hateful person. He was my defender and believed in me like very few people ever have. Of course he also tormented me endlessly just like most big brothers! More than once I remember being tickled until I was crying. What I wouldn’t give for one of those torture sessions today!
Let’s help fight suicide. Suicide Hot Line 1-800-273-8255 If you know someone who struggles with depression be that annoying friend that nags them into successful counseling. I am grateful that my husband did this for me.
Remember – Be Kinder than necessary EVERY one is fighting some kind of battle. Your kindness could help change a life AND the world!

Mary or Martha?

Mary or Martha? Which personality are you? By Rebecca Maloney

We have all read Luke 10:38-42 with Jesus speaking about the differences in these two inspiring women. While Mary was listening while sitting at Jesus’ feet, Martha was preparing a meal for everyone. Most people assume that Martha was not listening to what Jesus was saying. I, after homeschooling my daughters, believe that Martha was listening as much as Mary.
After reading the scripture again I also now believe that Jesus was not scolding Martha for preparing the meal, He was scolding her for complaining! Martha was listening while working which is how she learned. Jesus simply told Martha that He would not make Mary be like Martha. He simply said He would not change either of them.
It is perfectly fine to be a doer like Martha, as long as you accept that just because you are moved to ‘do’ you are not supposed to expect others to behave in the same fashion. While lots of lessons tell us to put down our work and sit down to pay attention- although this may need to be done sometimes my daughters taught me that they could each learn the lesson being taught in their own unique ways!
My ‘Mary’ diligently listened to the words I spoke and followed directions very well. My ‘Martha’ appeared to me to continuously be distracted and unfocused on our lesson. When I would call her out on it and DEMAND she tell me what I had just said, MUCH to my surprise, she could always repeat my words verbatim! I spent a few years trying to sit my ‘Martha’ down and finally realized I was hindering her and not helping her! When I quit ‘complaining’ that my ‘Martha’ wasn’t learning the way I thought she should we both grew in leaps and bounds!
Whether you are a Mary or a Martha- live your life with love and grace. Let us all do our best to avoid complaining always and forever!