Our daughter adopted a fourth foster child- several months ago the paperwork was finalized. It takes a long time for a child to enter the foster system, find a home that is a good fit and then for adoption to be completed.
When your child has a baby- I have always believed that it is their special time to bond with their baby. I’ve always tried to be supportive but not tell them what to do every step of the way. After all I made lots of parenting mistakes and part of those mistakes are how we bond with our babies and work at being a better parent.
When you child adopts an older child they still need that bonding time. And it feels like that bonding time takes longer. I’ve wanted these four children to embrace my husband and I as their lifelong grandparents. I knew it would take time. They have had traumas in their lives that leave them not trusting people.
I’ve gotten to watch them bond to our daughter~ and treat us kindly but not invite us into their circle of trust. I know this can not be forced- it must be earned, but sometimes it feels like it is never going to happen.
But yesterday one more of these precious children asked to come to work with me. After we did my drive up valley and then back home he asked if he could spend the night. I am so excited that I had to share it with the world! It has taken a long time but we have begun a bond and as his grandparents we have been invited into his trust circle.
I pray that we never break his trust. I pray we are the beginning of him being able to recognize good, healthy relationships over abusive, neglectful ones. May he heal in every way- spiritually, emotionally and physically. Tonight he is staying with us again! Two nights in a row ~ Pitter Patter ~ Pitter Patter !
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